Why I aspire to be a Mumpreneur
Let’s be very practical and realistic about the reasons why I chose to walk the path of a mumpreneur. I believe most mumprenuers would relate to this, but I also believe that circumstances are unique to each and every one of us.
1. I am obsessed with my daughter
I cannot say this in any other way possible. I am seriously obsessed with her. It is true. Of course, there are times when I need a time-out very badly. There are also times where she just pisses the hell out of me. At the end of the day, I still cannot believe how cute, how adorable and how beautiful she is. Whenever it is her nap time I wonder WHY ARE YOU NOT SLEEPING YET?! Then when she is asleep at night I miss her so much sometimes I want to wake her up. Haha!
So yes, I would want to be able to take care of her solely and I don’t wish to pass on the responsibility to someone else. It is also because of an incident with my mum’s helper that further strengthened this thought. I left her in the care of my mum’s helper, tucked her in her high chair and told the helper to watch over Styx while I went to the bathroom to remove my contact lenses. I thought it was a short time and we don’t have the habit of putting on the safety belt for her (cos she screams with them) and she fell from it even before I could remove my second lens. So yup, bad experience and valuable lesson learnt, she had a skull fracture that time. I couldn’t blame the helper because I felt that it was me who passed on the responsibility and I had only myself to blame.
All that being said, I really enjoy my time spent with her everyday, be it reading, napping, singing or just playing together. It is really important for me as a mum and I hope she enjoys my company too. LOL.
2. I don’t have a rich husband
As much as I would love to be a tai-tai driving a big, shiny SUV sending my kids to school, I’m not. Period. I wouldn’t say my husband earns a meagre salary but I feel that it is also my responsibility to contribute financially to the family and not let him take the toll of bearing it all. As it already is, he has elderly parents who are retired and depending on him for financial support plus we have other household expenditures which are borne by him, so I think it is only right that I step up to support him in whatever way I can – or at least I try to. We don’t lead a very pathetic lifestyle and we are not exactly that frugal (we don’t spend on luxurious items as well) so my aim is to work from home so that we can maintain the level of comfort that we currently enjoy.
3. I feel inadequate being ordinary
I just can’t. Even when I am earning on commission and how we are
brainwashed convinced to think that this is your business, I really can’t. I feel accomplished only when I know that is it something that I have built from scratch and I have total control over the operations and management of my company. As a self-employed agent, I definitely don’t have that much of a ‘freedom’ (I still have targets to hit which are inherently other people’s expectations of me or based on the benchmarks set by others) and I am obliged to report to my manager whom I feel may not have values aligned with mine. There are certain things that I wish to do for my clients which I can’t and many other restrictions that make me realise I am just working for a company who wants us to work all the time like it is our own business and all it gives are incentives and money all the time. That is most probably not what I am looking for in the long run.
4. I have become deeply passionate about social issues
Since having a baby, I have no idea where this sudden and strong emotion came from but I have become very interested in social enterprises and social issues. I look up to people who give back to the society in different ways and I am more driven to support social enterprises with a cause. In my business, I would like to give back to the community in ways like this – either by supporting a charitable organisation with my revenue or to help other mums who find it challenging to struggle mum duties and work set up their own businesses. The best way that I have thought of is to start up a social enterprise myself, so that I can fulfill my personal dreams of being a mumpreneur, and also do my part for the society.
5. Dreams should never die
Many people let age and circumstances pull them down which should never be the case. We, as parents, shall not look back on our lives and think – I should have done that when I was younger or if only I didn’t have a baby, I would have… – I personally don’t think that it should be that way. It’s not fair for your child/children to take the blame of what you did or did not do when you were younger. In fact, Styx is a very huge motivator for me to go ahead with what I have in mind. Anyway, I’ve got nothing to lose now since I’ve the best gift ever; and to be honest the reason I have such confidence is because that I know no matter what happens, my husband and family will be our pillar of support.
As the bible says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
I am working towards being a role model for Styx; for her to know that we should go all out to chase our dreams no matter the circumstances. My wish is for her to be a brave woman and an empathetic lady.
What’s your story? I would love to know about your aspirations and the challenges you face. Let’s share ideas!
Stephanie is mummy to Styx born in July 2015. She is Jesus-loving, panda-eyed and a caffeine addict. Her desire for more sleep is hindered by an empowering desire to be a Mumpreneur amidst other interests. She is blessed with an encouraging husband who helps with the chores and believes in her dreams.