Too much hype about failure
I find that there is too much hype about failures. I’m not saying that failure is bad, I’m just saying that there is too much going on right now about being okay to fail. Every now and then someone uploads a video about Jack Ma or Steve Jobs or Colonel Sanders and how much failures they’d overcome to be where they are/were. I personally enjoy these clips as a reminder and a source of motivation nevertheless.
Mistakes are definitely elements for exponential growth, and I am a beneficiary of making countless mistakes. Some people make mistakes along the way, or keep trying, till they become a success story. For these people, my utmost respect goes out to them and I do take them as my role models.
With so much hype about being okay to stumble, has it caused the value of rejections and failures to depreciate?
However, with so much hype about being okay to stumble, has it caused the value of rejections and failures to depreciate? For example, if I am starting out on a business and I keep making mistakes in a certain aspect, does that mean that if I keep trying hard and long enough, I will ultimately succeed? I do not think so and success to me is not just luck of course. And then there’ll be this other group of people who hop around and think that if they don’t succeed here, they’ll try their luck in another place, and keep trying till they end up somewhere – or nowhere.
… if I were a salesperson selling a product to the market, with the same sales technique (assuming it is a lousy one) I could still sell it to someone someday with enough persistence – is this worth popping a champagne?
Learning from failures is not about having that one event to celebrate. To put things into perspective, if I were a salesperson selling a product to the market, with the same sales technique (assuming it is a lousy one) I could still sell it to someone someday with enough persistence – is this worth popping a champagne? I would probably know what didn’t work, but I would not know what worked (law of large numbers most likely). The lessons that we learn from our setbacks should bring us closer to our ultimate goal, and be able to replicate, so it generates the same or even better results repetitively. Hence a salesperson with better skill sets (made up of innate and trained skills) may not have to go through the same amount of rejections to obtain the same results. So failing and failing over and over again, does not guarantee success.
Moreover, it is not necessary to make mistakes on on your own all the time as well. There are many ways to learn from failures and learning from others’ failures can also be a lifesaver! Talking to more people in your field, and reading biographies about people related to your industry can help you find out more about what worked and what didn’t.
Another point I’ll like to state is that if you’re pursuing success in something that requires a natural talent, chances are that you may not make it even if you try hard enough. Say you like dancing a lot but not only do you not have the knack for it, you are also “beat-deaf”. Unfortunately, even with immense passion, you most probably will not excel in this field. In this case, even if you fail continuously, you may never reach your ultimate goal with the most intense training.
…failures should generate ways of success and not only tell you what is not working…
To state my point, it is not wise to blatantly say it’s alright to fail and then keep trying aimlessly. We should always do a realistic analysis of our strengths and weaknesses and train ourselves to be receptive to the response of people when we act in a certain way. Working with your strengths and training your astuteness can decrease the number of failures you face. Having said that, failures should generate ways of success and not only tell you what is not working. It is important to be positive and and even more so – pragmatic.