The 5 things I have given up as a Mum(preneur)
Being a mummy for me has been a truly joyful and rewarding experience, and I’m sure it is the case for most of us. I had to hold back my tears while singing a birthday song for Styx (God knows why) and so many times she made me giggle from the deepest place of my heart, like true happiness glowing from within. I think the joy comes from being needed; having a purposeful existence and from soaking in the pure and innocent love a person has for you.
Maybe you have read many articles out there with similar titles, I don’t care. This is my story.
The 5 things I have given up:
Every mother has given up sleep for their child(ren). I dare to say E-V-E-R-Y because I really think ALL mothers have given up sleep in some way or another, some lucky ladies get to resume their sleep earlier than others. As for me, it has only been recently that Styx (currently 16 months) has started to sleep for 3 to 4-hour stretches. In the past she would wake up every 45 minute to 2 hours, and I would be pulling the hair off my scalp!
Because I have chosen the path to take care of her on my own as much as I can and generate income elsewhere, I have to work while she sleeps. On good days she sleeps at 9pm, I surf a little on my phone and prepare for the next day’s meals before I begin working on my laptop. On average I sleep at about 2-3am every day and have to wake up before 9am, sometimes even at 7am. In between I get woken up numerous times nursing her, and it’s been 16 months since I have ever had a good sleep. My hair is thinning and my skin is in its worst state ever, but I’ve never been more happy.
Still reminiscing the times when hubby and I would laze in bed till late afternoon, I’m not exaggerating, we used to be really lazy and lie in bed till 4pm.
In the past, I had been very punctual with my mani and pedi appointments. Due to the nature of my job, it was important for me to upkeep my appearance (excuses) but I was really very particular about my nails. Now my nails are cut till the point where the white part is barely visible; toe nails too, and the most disgusting thing about me right now is that my heels are cracked to the point of no return! It’s not true if I tell you that I don’t have the time to do it, because I can definitely find time for a 1-hour pedicure; I’d just rather spend time with Styx. It hurts some times when I walk and I think I will do something about it soon, and it’s been 16 months since I stepped into a nail salon! Other than time, maybe money is also the issue, I’d rather spend the money on something more worthy.
Well, I have to admit that I used to think: why do mummies find it so difficult to step out of the house to meet their friends? And I think I have the answer right smack in my face now. When I was meeting people all the time, I couldn’t understand why people would cancel on me because they needed to attend to their kids. Well, now I know – because you are not on priority list. To my friends out there, I really apologise for not catching up enough, and the reason is that you are not on top priority anymore. I’m more selective of the time I spend elsewhere now, and if you’re just not someone I want to spend my time with, I really wouldn’t put in the effort to meet up with you, it’s just too troublesome to make caretaking arrangements. Of course, if you’re willing to make some sacrifices for me, I would think you’re sincere, and would reciprocate. Seriously, I don’t even have time to go on a date with the man of my life now, so what do you think?
If I don’t have spare time, I won’t have the time to procrastinate! Hahaha! So basically I do whatever that comes to my mind and get it over and done with. Being time strapped really makes you more efficient than any other machine in this world. And that also includes the time I spent into constructing a business. I know that if I wait a little, or spend time trying to play just one more game I would lose extremely precious time. What if she woke up earlier than expected? My plans would be thwarted and my working time would have been gone significantly. Walking on this thin line really makes me superbly productive and I’m glad I gave procrastination up.
No such thing as “what if I fail” now. I shall not allow myself to fail – I shall plan ahead as much as I can, put my utmost effort in my market research, persist with might and never say die! You know what? To keep myself in check I have also engaged a business coach to help keep me in check and guide me along. So what if I fail? As Singaporeans say it, baby eat grass lor. In Jesus’ name, that shall not happen to us!
With this, I would really want to honour my creator and thank God for all the blessings that He has given to me thus far. Thank you for multiplying my sleep so I can be energised with lesser sleep; for multiplying my time and making me for efficient in the things I do; and also for bringing awesome people into my life.